I don’t believe that happiness just comes to us, or that we simply ‘deserve to be happy’. We have to seek it.
I believe we have to make happy situations for our own selves.
Let me tell you the story of how I came to learn this.
Years ago, I had a hip reconstruction. I was in pain for a long time, unable to exercise. I had constant dark circles under my eyes, to the point where people would say ‘are you ok, what’s wrong with your eyes?’
I developed a friendship and mentorship at this time with my treating doctor, Dr June Canavan, a leading Sports Medicine practitioner in Australia and highly sought after overseas.
She asked me if I wanted to scrub in with her the next day on 5 knee surgeries. I was over the moon! She also prescribed me a different medication for the pain.
One thing I should mention is that I am NOT, and NEVER have been a morning person. That night, I set my alarm to the dreaded hour of 4am. I was like a small child on christmas eve and couldn’t sleep with excitement. The following morning the dreaded alarm went off, but instead of whining and complaining I bound out of bed, whacked on my clothes and was out the door in a flash.
Looking in the car mirror, I noticed that my skin was brighter and my eye circles had almost gone, despite only getting about 1 hour of sleep. I was pumped with miraculous and uncharacteristic energy.
When I met Dr Canavan at the hospital, ready for the exciting day of watching 5 knee surgeries, she asked me if the medication she had prescribed had helped with the pain. I told her that it had miraculously cured my under eye circles and given me loads of energy this morning.
She laughed, smiled a big smile and told me “That is not the medication. There is no way it would have any effect like that”.
“The dark circles and the bouncy energy are because you are doing something you WANT to do” she explained.
I was confused. I felt SO different. Energy I hadn’t had in such a long time, ready to face the day despite mornings not being my thing.
“If you choose something exciting to do each day Tara” she said, “You will always have energy, you will never have dark under eye circles. But, you have to go and seek it,those exciting things that make you jump out of bed. Those opportunities won’t just come to you.”
Dr June Canavan has since passed away. Only in her 50’s, she was flying to Papua New Guinea to raise money for charity walking the Kakoda Trail. Sadly, her plane never made it to the trail.
Her spirit and her messages live on for me and the numerous other people that she inspired, motivated and treated during her years as a doctor.
I often think of her, and when I feel unhappy, low on energy or I have dark circles, I hear her voice and I get my butt out there and make some happiness medicine for myself.
I hope this inspires you the way she has inspired me.